Why we must ‘lighten up’ now more than ever (it’s easier than you think)

Alex Mathers
3 min readMay 31


It’s all so terrible.

Everything seems to suck.

People are mean. Some are offensive.

The weather is dusty and freaking cold!

Some dude wrote that I was a ‘prat’ on the Internet.

That made me angry. I will get them back for that.

My dad says things that make me cringe.

The world is in disarray.

My gran is dying.


Bad sinus.

‘How am I supposed to just ‘lighten up?’

All this stuff is happening to me.

It’s not like I have a say in this.

But you do.

We need you to not take things so seriously. Enough people are serious. We need someone who is light.

It’s good for you, and it’s good for us.

I don’t necessarily mean all bubbly, smiley and outgoing.

I mean resistance-free.

In flow.


When you do not resist, you are more creative, playful, aware and resourceful.

People also sense this and relax too.

In this way, lightness is contagious.

And the world needs lightness. It is creative. It is home.

Lightness is vital.

‘Lightening up’ is not something we force.

It comes out of understanding…

The reason we take shit so seriously is this:

We believe that stuff outside of us causes our suffering.

We feel like we are at the mercy of the external.

The weather. Harsh words. The economy. Zombie apocalypse.

But we are not.

Our emotional experience is routed to the thoughts in our heads.

When someone says something rude, and we feel stress, that person did not cause our stress.

We did.



Alex Mathers

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