This one, small shift will help you relax in meetings

I worked recently with a guy who struggled to relax in work meetings.

He wanted to chill out, and so he tried to control all his negative thoughts.

This made him even more uptight.

He was in his head.

Inhabiting a lost body in a meeting.

Self-conscious.

So I asked him:

‘What if your job wasn’t to relax yourself?’

‘Wait, what did you say, Alex?’ He said, perking up in his chair.

‘What if your job was to make those around you relaxed?’ I said.

He looked at me through sparkling eyes. It was like a huge burden had been lifted.

Attention on them, not you.

Penny dropped.

He saw that his entire emotional experience was down to where he directed his attention.

Direct it inward, and you get anxious.

Direct it outward, to helping people, and you embody relaxed leadership.

This is where wellness thrives.

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