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This is the main reason I’ve learned women lose respect for men

Alex Mathers
3 min readNov 7, 2023


One of the most insidious forms of stress for men is women issues.

Maybe you’re not getting the respect you think you deserve. Perhaps she’s giving you an unending barrage of drama.

Maybe she doesn’t seem as attracted.

I know how emasculating this feels.

For whatever reason, I have taken on the role of councillor for many of my male friends around girl issues. I do this as a coach too. Hundreds of hours spent discussing female nature and relationship dynamics helped me make sense of our shared challenges as men.

Many relationship gurus spend a lot of time telling us the tips, hacks and steps they must take to ‘get better with’ women.

They talk about game, seduction tips, how to use dominant body language, etc.

These can be helpful, but most of this is superficial and gets men in their heads, making them even weirder and on edge.

I’ve learned that, although women can often appear complicated, it doesn’t require much to maintain long-term harmony in a relationship, whether casual or more serious.

It has more to do with what you DON’T do than what clever tricks you use.