The value of emotional control

Have better relationships

There’s this guy I know called Tom.

He’s the kind of guy everyone likes. He’s not loud.

He carries a quiet, magnetic calm.

Over coffee one day near Camden market, I asked him how he’s always so chill around people.

Was it meditation? Breathing exercises? Some Jedi-level trick?

He chuckled and said, “I dunno really. I guess I just learned that how I feel isn’t about what people do, it’s about what I think about what people do.”

Let that sink in.

Most of us believe others make us frustrated, angry, or hurt.

It’s them doing it.

People make me nervous.

Corporate types are assholes.

etc

We hand over our power, thinking emotions are caused by other humans.

But what if they aren’t?

We live in an increasingly lonely and isolated world.

But the (right) people in our lives are everything.

Your connections are everything.

You can’t do what you want all alone.