The twelve habits of mentally strong people

What 25 years of mental struggle taught me about using the mind well

I’ve struggled with anxiety and crippling overthinking most of my life.

I’ve lost friends, opportunities, girlfriends and many happy moments because of it. These experiences prompted me to learn everything about mental health over fifteen years.

Today, my life experience is very different, and I have coached hundreds on how to develop mental strength. These are the habits shared by the mentally strong:

1. They no longer try to ‘fix’ themselves.

Those who believe they need ‘fixing’ — and many do — will be caught in a continual loop of insecurity.

When we act as though we need to improve, we reinforce the idea that something is wrong with us and therefore maintain a negative self-image. It’s not that any of us need fixing — it’s that most of us need to let go of the idea that something is wrong with us.

We are already whole. It just requires us to truly see this.

2. Does not tolerate stressful thoughts.

The mind will continually throw up all kinds of thoughts without trying.