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Ten simple behaviours that give you rock-solid self-respect

Many people ask me how they can be more respected.

They hate the pain of feeling ignored and disregarded.

But this always sets off a red flag for me, because it reminds me of how I used to be when I was depressed.

You instantly lose when you expect respect.bb

What I learned over many years of struggle:

To gain respect you must become someone who genuinely respects themselves.

This comes from a combination of doing things that bring self-respect and ‘acting as-if,’ which leads to an upward spiral of confidence.

Here are some examples that are simple but not necessarily easy:

Regularly do things that frighten you.

Fear isn’t always an indication of what to avoid.

In fact, unless it’s a charging rhino, most fears you have are signs of what TO do.

When you take courage, you feel the aliveness in your soul.

Slow down your speech and movements.

Here’s an example of one of the ‘act as if’ behaviours that has a powerful impact on your sense of self-respect.