Stop doing these eleven things if you want more confidence today

Alex Mathers
4 min readJun 17, 2024

My best teacher in life was deep despair.

My anxiety showed me the light.

My insecurity pointed me further along.

My lessons come from pain.

That’s why I look back on my troubles with a kind of acceptance and grace.

Here are 11 things I learned to reduce or chop to enjoy the true sense of confidence I always had — often hidden:

Resisting reality.

This is a hard one because it almost feels built into us as humans.

We see something we don’t like, judge it, and resist it. Judging something as not good is good.

Otherwise, we can’t do what’s right. But to continue resisting reality only blocks your ability to do anything about anything.

And that’s why your confidence can’t emerge.

Spending too much time off purpose.

Take breaks, refresh. Yes.

But stop pissing around off purpose for more than a few hours each day. This happens when you forget your primary purpose. And that’s ok, you need to find it again.

Purpose can be as simple as: