Seven simple mistakes that ensure your relationship will fail

Let’s jump straight in…

You depend on them for ‘self-esteem.’

First of all, self-esteem isn’t real. You made it up. Secondly, if you need someone else’s validation to make you feel good, you shouldn’t be in a relationship.

This is like building a house on a bed of marbles.

Before entering a healthy relationship, you need to learn to make peace with who you are in your most isolated moments.

You don’t see them for who they are.

We create all kinds of mental representations of other people in our lives.

We say, ‘they’re difficult, or crazy.’

We are living a lie when we respond to our thoughts on someone instead of who they really are and what they do. It’s not fair, either.

Just because you think someone’s an asshole doesn’t mean they’re an asshole.

You rely on expectations.

If you expect anything from someone, your relationship is on its way out.

The happiest relationships are operated by people who expect nothing but make firm handshake agreements on win-win deals that benefit them both. This is…