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Seven game-changing things I learned that helped me find more harmony with other people
Over the years, other people have brought me pain and joy in about equal measure.
Though I’m grateful for what I’ve learned through my struggles, there’s a lot of pain I’d prefer to have avoided.
These things are what I’d tell my younger self about creating more harmony with others.
Compatibility is a myth.
You don’t have better relationships when you’re more compatible.
Thinking you need to be compatible creates tension because your relationship is now based on conditions. Welcome difference. Be open to new ideas.
Allow others to be a source of growth for you.
People are 10X more self-conscious than you think.
Your attention is on you and trying to look cool.
But that’s precisely what Nervous Nathan over there is thinking too.
You don’t need to worry about what others think because they don’t care about you as much as you believe. Relax.
