Not saying what you really mean is turning you into a soulless husk

Have you ever said something you didn’t really mean, but you said it anyway?

Why did you do this?

It may have been a little white lie to be nice because you decided not to be a psychopath today.

You may have lied to avoid causing offence, or so you didn’t disrupt what appeared to be a harmonious situation.

But you may have also chosen to avoid saying what you mean for the same reason most of us do it. We don’t want to look bad. We want to fit in. We are scared of some primally-driven fear of abandonment.

We fear the repercussions of our words, and we don’t want to deal with the potential pain of criticism, rejection, or straight-up abuse.

So, it’s clear what we can be up against, at least in our minds. We have legitimate concerns.

Why, then, would I tell you to say what you mean?

Like with much of what I share in this guide, there are nuances to consider.

Sometimes, a little lie is warranted.

The issue is that most of us sway too far in the wrong direction. We diminish our confidence and drop bottlenecks into our relationships because we avoid the truth. Too much of this, as I learned growing up as a…