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Men, these 12 subtle behaviours make you instantly more attractive
I’ve always considered myself a decent-looking guy (my mum certainly seems to think so).
But I haven’t always been attractive to the ladies and people in general. In fact, there have been many moments in my 37 years where I actively repelled people.
I was frequently surprised by this. I’ve been geeking out on human behaviour for years as a result.
These subtle behaviour changes helped me the most:
Stop trying to be confident.
This makes us even more self-conscious. When we try to be ‘charismatic and cool,’ we’re thinking about how we’re coming across.
When we have lots on our mind, guess what happens? We get anxious and perform poorly because we’re overly self-aware.
Like I did, you will find relief by just dropping the need to do anything.
Just be, enjoy yourself, and your attraction will rise.
Slow down.
Rushing disadvantages us in a few ways. Firstly, it sends out a subtle indication of perceived lower status — that we are not at ease in our environment.
Slowing down means we’re relaxed in uncertainty, which is a highly confident trait. Secondly, we…
