If your life is complicated, ask these five simplifying questions

Alex Mathers


A complicated life creates stress.

I try to take on too much. I worry about unnecessary things. I spread myself too thin wanting to do more and more and more.

I lack the focus, time and energy for those things that matter the most to me.

Simplicity has always been the solution.

The best way I have found to get from complexity to simplicity is through asking focusing questions.

Everything starts with one thing. Narrowing down on what matters and what can be done to address an issue.

Often we don’t take the steps we need to take because it seems like such a monumental task.

So, ask these questions to create the clarity you need to get started on one thing.

One thing at a time…

First of all, before we ask the specific 5 questions, ask yourself:

Think about what is currently causing you continual stress or bother. What are you losing sleep over? What about the way you live right now do you know is holding you back, even if you don’t want to admit it?

Make a list of all of them.

Here are my main ones:

I’m not selling enough of my books.
I’m not going on enough outdoor adventures.
I have too many bills for things I don’t use.
I have a highly sensitive tooth.

You will find that just by listing out those issues, you will already feel your stress decreasing. You have clarity, and you might be surprised at how few things need addressing in reality.

Then narrow down on one thing.

Just one. Not three or six.

The more it continually bugs you, the more of a priority it should be.

One thing.

Yeah, that thing. You know exactly what I’m talking about.

Call it out. Verbalise what it is in detail. Write it down.

Here’s the question to address the above:

Q1) What is one thing you can you do to either…