If you’re not totally happy in your own skin, read this

We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be or act in a certain way.

I know I have.

And it is one of our most significant sources of unnecessary misery.

It keeps us guarded, hesitant, reticent, fearful and frustrated.

Humans do this thing where:

1. Through our life journey, someone criticizes us for being a certain way in a moment.
2. We mistake the subjective opinion someone else makes about us for the truth about who we are as a person.
3. Because we want us to be better, we take this false idea and beat ourselves up with it over and over again.
4. We put pressure on ourselves by wanting us to be and act differently.
5. We might even try and numb the pain created out of this pressure.

The above never helps.

Pressure makes us closed and nervous.

It’s like having a stern camp guard keeping watch over us from a distance with a rifle, ready to blow our brains out the moment we fall out of line.

That’s no way to live.

I’ve spent my entire life hating myself for being too serious; too uptight; too worried.