How to stop taking things personally so you experience more success in life

“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” — Epictetus

One of the most valuable truths I picked up learning Eastern philosophy was the idea of ‘no-self.’

What does that mean?

We all have a ‘self,’ surely?

Well, it turns out that when we really take a long, hard look at who we are, we see that the idea we have of what a self is — is an illusion.

Our ‘self’ is a web of ideas, judgements and images that have accrued through our lives. And they float around in the dark recesses of our skulls.

Because these images and ideas are just thoughts, they aren’t real. They are just thoughts.

We may have blood, skin and bones, but what’s underneath it all?

Who are we when we’re able to observe our thoughts about who we think we are?

Who are you, really?

Something to reflect on…

So, what do I mean by taking things personally?

This is when we act based on a perceived sense that we have something to lose or need something to protect.