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Eleven subtle signs other people like you

Alex Mathers
3 min readNov 28, 2023


Spending a large portion of my life in my head and nervous around people, it’s taken me a long time to understand others.

The more I learned about human nature, and the more interest I took in others, the less self-conscious I became.

Now I’m far more attuned. This has helped my social life considerably.

Here are some signs people like you (both romantically and otherwise)…

By the way, if someone doesn’t do any one of these, it doesn’t mean they don’t like you — the following are hints.

They ask lots of questions about you.

If someone appears to have a near-incessant fascination in you, and asks lots of questions that aren’t merely superficial, they are likely attracted to you.

Laugh quickly (and even at things that aren’t funny).

Don’t pull away when touched.

I’m not about to encourage you to touch others without awareness.

There are boundaries here that require nuance in understanding.

But in the right moments, should you touch and no effort is made to recoil, this is a good sign.

Hold eye contact with you.

Particularly in this ‘eyes on screen’ world, holding eye contact is entering into fairly intimate territory.

Holding someone’s eyes is like charging another with a kind of human electricity.

If someone isn’t looking away after a couple of seconds, it’s often a sign they are receptive to your energy.

Make efforts or hints about meeting again.

Reciprocate much of what you do.

So, for example, if you poke them teasingly, they will poke back.

Reciprocation often communicates: ‘I like what you do and want to show you that I like it.’

Offer to give you stuff.

A great indication of interest is when someone gives you gifts or offers to pay for things (beyond the expected etiquette of paying…