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Eleven behaviours that make people instantly like you more
I haven’t always been liked, and I don’t encourage anyone to go about trying to be liked.
However, I’ve learned over the years what behaviours tend to attract, and those which repel (I’ve been great at figuring out the latter!)
Absorb the following ideas, and let them become habits. Over time you may find this having a profound impact on your relationships.
Actually listen.
Give people the space for you to process what they say properly. Allow a few extra seconds.
You don’t always need to jump in with a response. Let people finish their sentences, and then pause at the right moments to let them process even more.
Silence is a powerful form of communication too. I learned this as a coach. People pay coaches huge sums just to be listened to and to have the space held for them to share and be listened to deeply.
Listening will set you apart immediately.
Be sincere, not ‘nice.’
What’s the difference? Sincerity is based on the intention of helping and supporting another, even if done under the veil of a tease or humour.
