I used to be a hothead, which rendered me pretty useless in those moments.
My dad used to call it ‘throwing a wobbler.’
I’d throw stuff across the room if I was really pissed off.
I could grit my teeth and yell hurtful things before slamming the door to my bedroom.
That was in my younger days; my anger rarely flares up today.
But I know how painful it can be to have life disrupted by anger.
It sits dormant, often, and then reveals itself when triggered, perhaps after months of bottling it up.
Here are some ways to ensure anger doesn’t take control and ruin your life, so you can enjoy a calmer, more effective existence as a man:
1) See how anger is showing you what you value.
Like any form of passionate emotion, anger can show us some interesting things about ourselves.
We can often shame ourselves into thinking that feeling angry or fearful means there’s something wrong with us. And we fail to look further into understanding it.
But understanding is healing. It diminishes anger.
