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Avoid these ten subtle behaviours if you want people to respect you more
Years of awkwardness compelled me to want to learn about what attracts one another.
People make judgements extremely quickly about the kind of person we are.
This means there are tiny changes we all can make that impact how others see us.
Let’s go:
1. Rushing speech
Many of us talk quickly for many reasons, including being jacked up on coffee and excited about what we’re saying.
There are nuances here, as always, and sometimes it’s a good thing to speak at a similar pace to your counterpart.
But the message this often transmits is you aren’t comfortable in your words. It’s like grabbing a hot cake and throwing it back quickly.
When we give ourselves time to speak, finding the right words becomes a lot easier, putting others at ease, and people will have more faith in what we’re saying.
2. Lack of attention.
Being attentive to someone in person and listening is not a submissive act.
Scrolling your phone while in conversation doesn’t make you look cool.
