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21 Sentences That Will Make You More Attractive Than Most

Alex Mathers
3 min readJul 29, 2023

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I put together this cheat sheet for quick reference.

I’m not the worst-looking dude, but I wasn’t always attractive and frequently did things that were straight-up unattractive and pushed good people away.

I learned a ton over the years in an attempt to improve my connections with other humans.

I put together this cheat sheet for quick reference.

It’s something I wish I had years ago.

  • Nurturing the art of being light-hearted and having fun, regardless of the circumstances, is an attractive skill.
  • People are attracted to people who don’t appear to be attached to specific outcomes.
  • When you’re overly self-conscious, you become less authentic and, therefore, less attractive.
  • Have a clear understanding of what positive change you want to make in the world, and let this energise you more than needing approval from anyone.
  • Use power poses and crazy, fun monkey dancing to prime the body for attractive confidence.
  • Focusing more on listening than speaking will set you apart.
  • Withholding information about yourself, and not continually blabbering, will increase your sense of mystery, which is attractive.
  • Don’t change yourself just to please someone else, but don’t be overly cold, either.
  • Instead of trying to calm yourself down, focus on calming others.
  • Ask unique questions that few ask to set yourself apart and get the other talking.
  • Soften your face and open your body language so you don’t appear so intense.
  • Attraction is closely rooted to confidence — and to be confident, you need to stop trying to be confident and just enjoy yourself.
  • Be willing to challenge and occasionally tease other people so you don’t come across as a boring average Joe who uses ‘niceness’ as a manipulative tool to get what he wants.
  • Stop waiting for validation, and bring your own relaxed energy.
  • Finding a way to be genuinely interested in other people will boost your…

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