I put together this cheat sheet for quick reference.
I’m not the worst-looking dude, but I wasn’t always attractive and frequently did things that were straight-up unattractive and pushed good people away.
I learned a ton over the years in an attempt to improve my connections with other humans.
I put together this cheat sheet for quick reference.
It’s something I wish I had years ago.
- Nurturing the art of being light-hearted and having fun, regardless of the circumstances, is an attractive skill.
- People are attracted to people who don’t appear to be attached to specific outcomes.
- When you’re overly self-conscious, you become less authentic and, therefore, less attractive.
- Have a clear understanding of what positive change you want to make in the world, and let this energise you more than needing approval from anyone.
- Use power poses and crazy, fun monkey dancing to prime the body for attractive confidence.
- Focusing more on listening than speaking will set you apart.
- Withholding information about yourself, and not continually blabbering, will increase your sense of mystery, which is attractive.
- Don’t change yourself just to please someone else, but don’t be overly cold, either.
- Instead of trying to calm yourself down, focus on calming others.
- Ask unique questions that few ask to set yourself apart and get the other talking.
- Soften your face and open your body language so you don’t appear so intense.
- Attraction is closely rooted to confidence — and to be confident, you need to stop trying to be confident and just enjoy yourself.
- Be willing to challenge and occasionally tease other people so you don’t come across as a boring average Joe who uses ‘niceness’ as a manipulative tool to get what he wants.
- Stop waiting for validation, and bring your own relaxed energy.
- Finding a way to be genuinely interested in other people will boost your…
